We live in a society of increasing acceptance, which in some instances can be a great thing.
Now, more than ever, you can be whatever sexual orientation you so choose, with minimal judgment (there will always be a few assholes out there). Straight, gay, bi, trans, furry…I’m sure there are others I don’t know about…most people just don’t really care.
As long as you’re not interfering with the rights of others, go find people to love and be happy!
Where acceptance goes awry is settling for what you perceive life has dealt you and finding others to commiserate with. What eventually happens is you convince yourself it’s ok to be less than.
Less than what, you ask?
Less than what you’re capable of being.
Less productive than your true ability.
Less loving to your family.
Less healthy than your genetics will actually attain.
You’re Fat, And Don’t Sugar Coat It Because You’ll Eat That, Too!
Worse yet, if you don’t have good people in your life to tell you otherwise, they will tell you it’s ok because it allows them to be less than as well. It’s always been an interesting phenomenon to me, people not wanting to see others rise up, as it forces them to face why they are not pursuing their own greatness in life.
The self-acceptance of anything less than what we are realistically capable of achieving is greatly handicapping us. That doesn’t mean you can’t love yourself where you are, but it also doesn’t mean it’s “just the way it is” and you can’t do anything about it.
The excuses must stop. Society can talk all day long about ‘just being you’ and it’s ok to be overweight and you should love yourself, etc, and I don’t disagree with any of that. But that consistent narrative will eventually have you believe it’s ok, even healthy, to be overweight, and you shouldn’t have to change.
Well, obesity is killing people, literally. We must get our collective heads out of the sand and face the problem.
Money is another great example. Hang around the wrong people and you’ll think being wealthy is evil and wanting more money is just greedy. Like we’re all supposed to just financially struggle until we die?! Again, the sugar coating has to stop.
It’s ok to not have the money you desire, but it’s not okay to think “Well I’m barely getting by, but that’s just the way it is.” It’s that way because YOU allow it. When we begin to justify our “less than” behaviors, that only placates the fact we’re not willing to do the work, and it’s much easier to place the blame elsewhere.
Whatever success looks like for you, it’s time to stop sugarcoating all the reasons why you’re not there. Have an honest look at yourself in the mirror, and ask if you are doing all you can to move towards the most elite version of yourself.
You don’t have to beat yourself up about what you haven’t done, but you DO have to take action to move forward.